9 Ways To Boost Your Self-Esteem
A lot of people have trouble with self-esteem. Sometimes the slightest things can drag us down and chip away at our confidence. Even if you feel like there’s no way to bring it back up, don’t lose faith that you can build yourself back up.
Here are a couple of ways you can build up your self-esteem and confidence:
1. Don’t beat yourself up
A lot of the time, our self-esteem issues have a whole lot to do with us. We doubt ourselves and tell ourselves that we are not good enough, or that all we are destined for is a failure. We are never kind to ourselves.
Tell yourself positive things you would normally tell friends and family. It sounds a little corny, but talking yourself up can really help in boosting your confidence. Give yourself a “well done” after finishing a hard day’s work or completing a research paper.
Daily affirmations have been proven to improve self-esteem and even get people more motivated to complete their goals.
2. Focus on yourself
No one’s circumstances are exactly the same. So comparing yourself to others won’t just chip away at your self-esteem, but it will drain you of valuable energy that can be better spent elsewhere. There is nothing wrong with challenging yourself but don’t set unrealistic expectations or goals based on others.
Focus your time and energy on your own goals and achievements. Not only will you be more efficient, but priding yourself on something that was completed well is completely fine.
3. Pump that iron
It might not seem like it, but exercise is a great way to boost self-esteem and confidence. Grab your smartphone or mp3 player, fill it with your favorite music and hit the gym. Give yourself a set of realistic goals to achieve over a certain time period. As you measure your building abilities and see how much you improve, you’ll feel better seeing all the hard work pay off.
Not only will you be building muscle, endurance, and self-esteem, but you’ll be releasing endorphins when you break a sweat.
4. Mistakes are okay
It is no secret that every human being is capable of making mistakes. But many people perceive mistakes in the wrong way. They can be a valuable learning experience, teaching you a lesson you would not have learned otherwise.
Admit the mistake and strive to learn from it and do better than before, even if that involved something like forgetting to save that epic psychology paper you’d finished.
5. If it makes you happy, do it
There is a lot of stuff that can drag down our self-esteem, but when we do what we love it’s hard not to feel a great deal of self-esteem when we are in our element.
Different people might feel better doing different things. Some of us feel accomplished after ending a game, reading a lengthy chapter book, or just taking a nap on the couch.
Whatever it is that makes you happy, do not hesitate to make sure there is time for it.
6. Small victories
The societal structure has taught most of us to focus on the larger goals, blinding us to the small steps it takes to get there.
Did you remember to brush your teeth this morning? Awesome, that’s one victory there. How did your family like those fillets of tilapia you cooked? Hey, if they finished their plate, count that too.
Celebrating the little things is a good way to keep your mind busy and full of positive thoughts.
7. Clean your circle
Not many people are aware, but the people that we associate with have an effect on how much self-esteem we have. Are they always dragging you down? Do they never have anything good to say to anyone or take advantage of yours? Maybe it’s time to remove these people from your life.
Surround yourself with a more positive circle of friends who truly value you.
8. Care about appearances
How you look to others is an outward manifestation of our inner feelings. If you look better, you’ll feel better. Dress in attire you feel makes you confident and own that attitude.
9. Face a fear
Everyone fears something and getting over them is not always easy. Think about what it is you are afraid of and ask yourself if you might be able to face one of those fears.
If you manage to get past it, you’ll not only have conquered your fear but also have more self-esteem after displaying courage you weren’t sure you had.